The Problem with Cozy Games (and What Really Makes One Cozy)

Put the kettle on because we’ve got to talk about what makes a game cozy. I share my thoughts as a 40-something gamer on what cozy games mean to me. Let’s dispel some arguments!

I’ve been playing video games for over 30 years now. I feel so old saying that! I still feel like that clueless 17-year-old girl who doesn’t know what she wants to be when she grows up. Yet here I am at 40, still playing games.

When I was younger I would sneak into my brothers’ rooms to play on their game consoles whenever they were out…. much to their annoyance. We owned a PC and I played The Sims a lot, but I really wanted to play games like GTA and Kingdom Hearts on PlayStation. Shooters aren’t generally my vibe but I just loved playing games with a controller, I didn’t really care whether they were violent or my type of games. 

The world of cozy games opened up to me after I bought my first pink Nintendo DS. I bought it specifically to play Animal Crossing Wild World when it was released in 2006. A game that I so desperately wish I could play for the first time again because it was that good.

Who would have thought a game about talking animal villagers, foraging, crafting, and decorating could be so comforting? I even preferred it over The Sims!

Perhaps it was the soothing background music between 1am and 6am or the thoughtful letters from Mum that kept me coming back for more. But it just felt cozy.

It was miles apart from shooting up enemies in Final Fantasy X-2. The first ever PlayStation game I bought for myself. I just felt relaxed, and happier. My villagers felt like family to me.

And I strongly believe that it’s that feeling of community that ultimately takes a game from being just another video game to a cozy game.

This post is going to be fairly long because I have a lot to say about this topic as you can already tell. So please use the drop-down table of contents to get around.

What are Cozy Games?

Are cozy games cute? Or are cozy games farming games? What about games for girls? Are they cozy games?

It’s easy to see why the debate over what constitutes a cozy game continues to be a hot topic for discussion among the cozy gaming community. There are so many genres of games that they fall under. Cozy gaming itself isn’t a genre. I tried typing in ‘cozy games’ on Twitch under categories and it didn’t exist. Same on Steam. If big gaming sites don’t acknowledge cozy games as a genre or category then what is cozy gaming?

To combat the lack of a category for my favorite cozy games I curated a Steam Page with my cozy game recommendations and I also follow other Steam Curators like Wholesome Games.

Heck, I made my own website about them, hello!

I used to say that cozy games are non-threatening with zero violence, but as I’ve experienced more and more indie games over the past few years I’ve come to find that any game can indeed have cozy elements. That does not make it an outright cozy game though, and that’s okay.

Some cozy games are complicated while others are simple and quick to master. There are grindy cozy games and non-grindy cozy games. Cozy games with soothing soundtracks and cozy games with fast-paced soundtracks. Some cozy games take thousands of hours to play through, while others take only two.

There really is no one style of gameplay that makes a game cozy.

Some cozy gamers like horror games because that makes them feel cozy. Other cozy gamers like farming sims and that’s their comfort game. Cozy games come down to individual preferences and how they make the player feel more than what the game is about.

I personally prefer some kind of customization and management system. But I hate fishing. I’ll happily organize my inventory and decorate my home with crafted furniture for hours. But give me a rod and tell me I need to catch 50 fish to complete a task and I’ll do everything in my power to avoid it.

Fishing in any game annoys me. I find it decidedly uncozy. I have no patience for it, but yet it’s an element that seems to be favored by game developers.

After 30-odd years of playing video games, over 2 years of blogging specifically about cozy games, and many hours of research, I’ve concluded that, for me at least, cozy games have kindness and community at their core. 

Take, for example, Palia – described as a cozy community sim MMO.

When I began playing it on PC I stopped after a few sessions because there was no controller compatibility. But it was later ported to Switch and I couldn’t put it down!

It’s now my main game and I’ve been streaming it on Twitch and TikTok. It has all the same elements of many other games I’ve played – crafting, cooking, decorating, and an intriguing storyline, but what I love most about it is how kind and considerate the other players are. That makes my experience of the game much more pleasant and rewarding.

It’s free-to-play, but had it been paid I still would have bought it on Switch.

When the developers design thoughtful community-centered games like with Palia, the game becomes an instant cozy game in my opinion.

Does that mean only life-sims can be cozy? Absolutely not. Kindness and care can be built into any game. Take a look at how in this research project by project horseshoe.

Why are Cozy Games so Popular? 

Wholesome games have always been a family favorite, think any Mario game ever made for instance. They bring folks together.

But there’s something altogether quite special about cozy games. Rather than everyone huddling around the TV for some laughs or chaos depending on your choice of game, cozy games offer comfort for solo gamers. 

What makes cozy games stand out is their knack for helping players to unwind and exhale. Like the first sip of tea on your work break after being hounded by customers all morning. They are a necessary addition to the games industry that have been severely overlooked for many years.

Mostly due to the belief that video games need to be fast-paced and difficult to be enjoyable. 

The cozy game trend

Cozy gaming has been around forever.

Stardew Valley creator Concerned Ape and Nintendo were pioneers in the laid-back life-sim genre. But when the whole world had to stay home between 2020 and 2021 suddenly folks found they had a lot of time on their hands.

Not surprisingly Switch sales skyrocketed, and many folks bought their very first game console solely to play Animal Crossing New Horizons which launched in March 2020, just as everyone shut their doors. This new game became a way for families and friends to play together without being in the same room.

But wait a second. ACNH wasn’t the first, or only, online game? So why was it so popular? 

Several factors jump out to me. Firstly, it’s an incredibly simple game. Even grandmas were huge fans of the game. Secondly, the Nintendo Switch is considerably cheaper than most other consoles on the market coming in at under $200 for the Lite version. I started with a Standard Switch but bought a Switch Lite because it was less weighty and easier for my wrists to hold for long periods. But thirdly, and probably the most important factor… the series already had a huge fan base, myself included. 

So when you combine isolation from loved ones with a nostalgic blast from the past you get a recipe for people to take to the internet to share their opinions.

Content Creators

New Horizons was the reason I decided to become a Twitch Streamer and YouTuber. I wanted to share my gameplay and love of my favorite villagers with the world.

I played well over a thousand hours and bought a second copy of the game just so I could create two separate islands (You are only allowed 1 island per game). Indulgent I know, and I most certainly wouldn’t have done that if it hadn’t been for how popular the game turned out to be. I just couldn’t get enough!

I wasn’t the only one. Many people turned their passion for gaming into a small business in 2020 and the demand for cozier games heightened.

I posted a faceless TikTok video sharing a list of games I thought were cozy and it reached over 2 million views. 2 MILLION VIEWS! Let that sink in. For someone like myself, with a smaller following to go viral like that seems madness to me.

There’s no denying that cozy games are popular, the trend doesn’t seem to be slowing down.

The HUGE problem with Cozy Games right now

Honestly, we’re just making it up as we go along. Coziness is subjective.

It would be impossible for a game developer to encompass every quality that each individual found comforting. It would drive a person mad because coziness is different for everyone. 

I particularly like thunderstorms and can fall sound asleep while they rage outside, but my poor darling fiance hates them and will toss and turn all night.

There have been many arguments on social media about creators reportedly lying to their viewers because their idea of a cozy game is different from other members of the cozy gaming community. But I think there’s beauty in us all experiencing games differently. 

Farming burnout

Everyone is talking about it. Cozy gamers are sick and tired of farming games. 

It seems like every other new game release is a farming sim and they all look the same, feel the same, and basically seem to rip off other games. Nothings different. Every game is trying to be the next Stardew and I’m personally bored of it. 

Don’t get me wrong I love some chill weeding and bringing in the cash from potato sales in Palia, but I don’t want the bulk of my gameplay to be just farming-related. If I see a game with farming or farm in the title I will run away screaming at this point. 

Overuse of the term ‘Cozy’ by Game Developers

Another problem with cozy games is the blanket use of the term ‘cozy’ to sell any game.

A developer reached out to me via email before Christmas to ask my opinion on whether or not I felt their new game was “cozy enough”. I gave my opinion and never heard from them again. I feel like developers are slapping cozy in their titles or descriptions of their games simply to bait cozy gamers.

It’s odd because all the games I’ve played up until recently never even described themselves as cozy, they just were… to me. I don’t want cozy games thrown in my face, I want to discover cozy moments within games that I never expected to feel like Photo Mode in Final Fantasy 7 Remake.

I want to be impacted by a topic I hadn’t considered like the complicated mother-daughter relationship in Hindsight. I want simple game mechanics and every game to have controller compatibility. These are the things I care about, not if a game is cozy enough to be called a cozy game.

My take on Cozy Horror Games

I have a problem with horror games being seen as cozy. I get that a small section of cozy gamers find horror games comforting but that doesn’t sit right with me. I don’t understand how survival horror, stealth horror, action horror, and my least favourite subgenre in games or movies, psychological horror, can be cozy.

In my opinion, the features of cozy games are wholesome, light-hearted, carefree, safe and rejuvenating. So when I come across gamers who say that Dead by Daylight or Phasmophobia are cozy, I’m thoroughly confused.

I feel like there has to be a line somewhere. In my community on Facebook I made a point of stating that I won’t tolerate horror games. I’m sure other communities out there will support cozy horror gamers, it’s just not mine. It goes against my idea of what makes a game cozy.

What are your thoughts? Do you think there’s a problem with cozy games right now… or am I reaching? Let me know in the comments.